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A Gentlewoman’s Guide to Affordable Yet Stylish Clothing

When talking about fashion and style, many seem to think you have to spend their whole paycheck. Not at all. As Stacy London, fashion consultant warns: “Never confuse fashion and style. Fashion relies on unattainable looks on women with unrealistic bodies. Style is about utilizing the best aspects of you.” Style is about finding what looks best of you and showing it to the world. Style is not what you can’t wear. It’s about what you can wear with swag.

Here at The Gentlewoman Redefined we want you to look YOUR best not like the Instagram pages of shedoeshim, adapperchick or sheagent. We want you to find what works for you and rock it for the world to see. It’s about what suits you (pun intended).

We all want to look good. You’ve lost a little weight, and your clothes don’t fit anymore? You’ve want a more mature look? You want to change your style a little? But you don’t want to break the bank? This is for you.

Let’s venture away from your old faithfuls of Old Navy, Gap, Banana Republic, Abercrombie & Fitch, and check out these online retailers. Those old faithfuls are cool to get a piece here or there, but you don’t want to look like a clone. It’s time to step it up when you’re stepping out and transform from a boi to a gentlwoman.

Here are a few online retailers we’ve found online that offer affordable yet stylish fashion: 6PM, Bluefly, Century 21, DSW, Gilt, H&M, Jack Threads and Uniqlo.

6pm

At 6PM, a subsidiary of Zappos, you can find all of your favorite brands in one place for 20-65%. Go on a daily guilt-free shopping spree as your indulge in the brands you love. You can find 7 For All Mankind and Seven7 jeans, Cole Haan and Versace shoes, Robert Graham and Just Cavalli button down shirts and Nike activewear for the low.

bluefly

If you want to upgrade to gentlewoman status, check out Bluefly for deals in suits. Bluffly carries over 350 brands at discounts of 20 – 75%. If you’re looking for quality without killing your pockets, check out this website.

century 21

Century 21 is a department store that features designer merchandise what 40-65% off retail every day.

DSW

Designer Shoe Warehouse is the place to go for great brands at a great value every day. With thousands of shoes for men in over 400 stores nationwide, DSW is about the thrill of finding the perfect shoe at the perfect price. To top it all off, DSW Rewards means shopping comes with perks-members ear points toward $10 Rewards certificates every time they shop.

Gilt

Gilt Groupe is a members-only site for sales. New sales last 36 to 48 hours and feature merchandise from a single brand or small groups of brands. Savings are up to 60% off the suggested retail price. Quantities are very limited, but you can preview items prior to sales launch.

h&m

H&M actually has a design team that creates sustainable fashion for all, always at the best price. H&M is modern, timeless, tactile and functional. Exploring the concept of style over fashion, you can find fashion pieces for the contemporary wardrobe. High-end design and quality are brought to everyone.

JackThreadsLogoAt Jack Threads they believe that looking great and feeling better shouldn’t be a chore and that a good-looking suit for your 9 to 5 shouldn’t force you to get a second job from 5 to 9. Everyday they feature a broad range of products that they can stand behind.

uniqlo

Uniqlo is Japan’s leading clothing retailer of casual wear. Its clothing designs become hot trends, for its team continuously monitors the latest fashion trends and styles.


But like everything, it’s how you wear it not what you wear that makes these clothes stylish.

If you know of any online retailers that can help your style and pocketbook, let us know. We want to hear from you.

Happy Socks And Memories of My Paw-Paw

A few years ago I noticed these colorful socks called Happy Socks in TJ Maxx. They were bright, loud and fun. And every time I went to TJ Maxx and Marshall’s I bought 2 or 3 pair. I loved wearing mix-matched socks, but Happy Socks gave me a way to be stylish and bold.

Happy1When I was younger I remember every Sunday my grandfather, Paw-Paw would get dressed for 8 o’clock mass at All Saints Church in New Orleans, LA. Paw-Paw was a sharp dresser, and he sometimes would wear bright yellow socks. I remembered asking him about those particular socks. He simply told me it was about the details.

Paw-Paw was a man of few words. He allowed his actions to speak for themselves. Socks for men were usually dark and rather boring. Wearing brightly colored socks was his way to show off. And when I noticed Happy Socks it reminded me of my grandfather’s bright yellow socks. It made me realized that I wasn’t thinking about the small details like socks.

When I get ready, I put on my socks and smile. They make me happy. I would like to thank Happy Socks for bringing back those wonderful memories of Paw-Paw. Over 25 years since his death I can hear him say, “How you dress is a way to show the way who you are so giving ’em a little something extra.” Each day I wehappy socksar a pair of Happy Socks, I am paying attention to details. Each day I wear them, it’s in homage to my Paw-Paw.

Another reason why I like Happy Socks is its commitment to LGBTQ issues. A couple of years ago Happy Socks partnered with Giles Deacon for the Elton John AIDS Foundation and created a limited edition box of seven pairs of socks. These socks helped raise money for the foundation.

Additionally, Happy Socks is a relatively new company, starting in 2008 as a vision to bringing fun and colorful socks to the world. Today, Happy Socks are sold on every continent including 70 countries. Thus, it’s about the details. It’s time to give the world a little something more as your pant’s leg cinch up and you give a little extra with Happy Socks.

Introducing Septieme Larguer

While scrolling through The Style Tudors Facebook page, I saw these awesome Septieme Larguer wingtips. I had not heard of Septieme Larguer which means Seventh Width in French. So I had to Google Septieme Larguer and find out more about the company and the shoes.SL Rosu

Septieme Larguer is a relatively new brand which was started in 2010 by an uncle and nephew combo of Marcos Fernandez and Mathieu Priess. Fernandez has a lot of experience in the shoe industry as he was the president and designer at Bowen and Emling while Priess was a respected and gifted designer.

SeptieSL street shoesme Larguer offers a full range of shoe styles and colors including but not limited to oxfords, bluchers, loafers, saddles and monkstraps in black, brown and burgundy. But what makes Septieme Larguer stand out is that they offer custom patinas. They take a raw, uncolored leather and hand paint it whatever color the customer wants. While these customized shoes usually cost upwards to $1500, Septieme Larguer only costs a few hundred dollars.

Patina shoe before coloring
Patina shoe before coloring

Actually, I priced a few shoes on Septieme Larguer website, and it’s approximately $300 with shipping. I don’t think that’s bad for a shoe that a very select few will have in the United States. If you like something different, check out Septieme Larguer for your new shoes.

But cautious though I’ve seen a few bad comments about missing shipments. I’ll let you know when I order from there how it went. I’ll give you an update.

How to Dress Professional As A Gentlewoman

Years ago everyone dressed gender-appropriately and wore business suits to job interviews. Those were the days of Mad Men power suits, where women wore pencil skirts flaunting their hourglass figure, uncomfortable girdles cinching at the waist with short, cropped jackets accentuating a small torso (or the illusion of one) and gloves to round out the look. On the other hand, the men wore uniformed grey flannel suits with a pleated trousers and a hat to complete the look. This is what was needed and expected when interviewing for a job.

Conformity (and policing gender roles) was the way of those days. There was no leeway for individuality when it came to business attire. You had to conform to those gender-appropriate rules. But it’s 2015, and nothing about you says conformity. And while over the years the dress code for interviews is less conservative, as a masculine-identified woman your anxiety is at an all-time high.

You’re not just a lesbian, You’re androgynous. Stud. Boi. Maybe FTM. Basically, you’re a gentlewoman. You’ve been mistaken for a man with some regularity. A person calls you, ‘Sir’, and you may or not correct him/her (depending on your mood). You’ve been given weird stares or you hear the whispers when you walk in the women’s bathroom. A bit of awkward ensues, and you never can get used to it.

But this is who you are. You’ve never denied that, but you don’t know how the person interviewing you will take you dressing masculine. All you want to do is live the American dream. You’ve got your degree(s). Now it’s time to get the job that will help you make that dream a reality. While you know that America has made great strides in LGBTQ equality, you also know that there’s no federal law that protects LGBTQ individuals from employment discrimination.

Your resume, education and connections have gotten you the interview. It is your time to shine, but you do not know what to wear. As a gentlewoman, you want to put your best foot forward. You have too many questions in your head. Does putting my best foot forward is girly up with a woman’s suit or dress? Would you feel comfortable in that outfit? When the last time you tried on a dress or skirt? Is it easier to just be yourself?

All of these questions are swirling around your mind. You know that interviews are about first impressions. Your appearance is being judged as soon as you walk in the room, but your confidence is as well. You have to understand that your education, accolades and experience aren’t only things that are judged. The interviewer is also judging how well you will work with the existing culture dynamic.

Therefore, you should be yourself. You have to be completely comfortable with yourself. In the words of Dr. Seuss, “Why fit in when you were born to STAND OUT!” Let your confidence exude through your personal style. Your appearance should not only show that you’re taking this interview opportunity seriously, but you will fit in nicely within the company’s culture (or not). The ‘not’ is important. You do not want to work for a company where you have to live in duality (basically a lie). You want to work for a company that respect you as an employee and as a human.

You’ve decided to be yourself when you walk in that interview. So what should you wear? In a recent interview with Mary Going of Saint Harridan, she acknowledges the difficulty of finding the right ‘power suit’ for interviews. She states: “Most of us have spent much of our lives wearing casual clothes in professional settings because that was the only option we had access to. It would have been a huge cultural leap for us to wear a matched suit with dress shirt and tie to work so we got away with an Oxford and khakis or maybe a spiffy sweater As a result, our perspective is skewed toward the dressed-down end of the spectrum. Well now it’s time to kick it up a notch!”   

bow tie

As gentlewomen we should have more options in professional dress. Maybe we do, but we haven’t delve in them as much as business casual dress. It’s about learning through trial and error. Because of our women’s bodies (with breasts, hips, and butts) we have to find a LGBTQ-friendly tailor that can tailor to your body. It’s about creating a look that fit YOU individually. Depending on the industry you’re in and the companies you’re interviewing for, buy a few outfits that are appropriate, professional and comfortable because you maybe asked to return for a second or third interview. But if you cannot afford a different suit, change your accessories such as a  tie, belt, shirt and shoes.

We often wonder what’s the official do’s and don’ts of business code. According to Mary Going of Saint Harridan there’s a difference between business dress and business casual:

Saint Harridan Blue SuitThe OFFICIAL official requirements of masculine business dress are a dark colored matched-suit (trousers and jacket matching navy, black or a very dark charcoal fabric), a white dress shirt (broadcloth or pinpoint fabric), and a tie. If you want to get technical down to the toes, your socks should be the same color as your suit, but a share lighter. Of course, this varies by workplace and region. New York and other East Coast cities are likely to stick more closely to these guidelines, but there are more options as you move west and south across the states. Our  best advice is to look around you and see how the rules are being extended in your workplace. Are there more suit color and textile options? Charcoals? Sands? Even some light blues? How about pinstripes and windowpanes? In many business environments you’ll find there is some leeway beyond the dark suit mandate. Where there is some variety in shirt colors, you can start with the basic business five: white, off-white, light blue, French blue and pink. Of course, the safest route is always to err on the more formal side when you are entering an unknown situation, but when you know there is some flexibility in color and pattern, we say, mix it up! You deserve variety.

Meet Ace (Allison Graham) as a sought-after stylist who has a keen eye for detail & creates versatile ensembles.
Meet Ace (Allison Graham) as a sought-after stylist who has a keen eye for detail & creates versatile ensembles.Check her out here.

Business causal gives more options to step into. Unmatched suits are allowed, as are a greater variety of suit fabric patterns and colors. Your favorite jacket with a starched collared shirt and a pair of khakis will pass the test in many business casual work places. So will stripes, hounds tooth, windowpanes and checks. So play with them! Wear a jacket, dress shirt, and open collar if you life. Or throw a little charm with your favorite bow tie. Dress shirts without a jacket work as well, with or without a tie, but know the difference between a dress shirt and a sports shirt. (Saints, be advised: just because a shirt has buttons, doesn’t mean it’s a dress shirt.) Sport shirts are more billowy and less formal. When you tuck them in – which you must do, even in a business casual settings – they balloon out and look sloppy. Dress shirts are made to fit your torso more closely, which is precisely why they have not traditionally fit people with breasts and hips. (Don’t worry, we made that problem history with our quasi-custom dress shirt design.) Business casual still requires a dress shirt, but you can add other fabrics, like pinpoint Oxford, end on end, and twill, to your shirt rack. (For more on how to choose your dress shirts, check out these posts on our blog. Again, look around you to see where the lines of casual and formal have been drawn in your workplace. The best part of knowing the rules is getting to choose when to follow them, when to break them and when to make them your own! Nothing is sacred but you.

You can follow all of these steps, but you have to comfortable in your own skin. You’re a gentlewoman, a woman of discriminating tastes in fashion, culture, politics and women. Your employer should know who they are hiring. You do not want to get hired under false pretenses and have to try to keep up the facade. That duality can become overwhelming and can affect your job performance. But when you’re comfortable with yourself, you will make the great first impression with your individuality, style, charisma and knowledge, and you will get the job.

The gentlewomen of Saint Harridan wants to encourage you with this: Thanks to the nation of gender warriors, risk takers and people who just can’t abide being anyone but their truest self. Everything is changing. There is more room than ever to explore gender not just in social settings but in professional (settings) as well. And every time you wear a suit and tie to work, you make it even easier for the rest of us. So, thank you.

Yes, thank you for being YOU. There’s more important than you so love yours.

Randi Sylve Presents ROS Artistry

There’s nothing like the spirit of New Orleans, open and welcoming to anyone who loves her. This is the personality and spirit of Randi ‘Obi’ Sylve, principal of ROS Artistry. A couple of months ago Randi Sylve introduced the world to his new venture, ROS Artistry. Sylve with his bold, eclectic jewelry collection is set to take the fashion world by surprise.

Since making macaroni necklaces as a kid, Randi knew he had an affinity for creating jewelry. A few years back one of his fashion creations of a ruby Converse was put in the Invisible Man exhibit at the McKenna Museum in New Orleans. But while working for HIV prevention, his creative juices began to flow and out came the ROS Artistry collection.

The humanity of Randi Sylve is undeniable for his need to give back to the community. With each day of his life, he is dedicated to preventing the spread of HIV/AIDS particularly in the black community. It is this spirit that will help me incorporate philanthropic efforts with ROS Artistry as it blossoms. Randi’s big heart and dedication to giving back, combined with his bold designs make him a great role model for black men everywhere.

Name: RaRandi RAWndi ‘Obi’ Sylve

Position: Principal of ROS Artistry

Interview

1. What is your current job position? How did you go from that to jewelry designer?

I have two jobs – By day, I do STD/HIV Marketing,  and by night I work as a Cosmetology Advisor. Both jobs have supported me in developing the skills to be business savvy, creative, detail-oriented, and people-centered; which has supported the vision of ROS Artistry, and my jewelry design.

2. Do you have any formal training in jewelry design and creation? How did you come to realize your talent?

I have not taken any formal training in jewelry making, however, have an artistic background in installation art. I also studied architecture briefly in college, which has been beneficial in my ability to create and craft jewelry. – I think I realized my talent about 10 years ago when I started making much of my own jewelry and would receive compliments on the design and craftsmanship. It wasn’t until about 3-4 years ago that I started designing professionally and investing time into learning about the elements that I incorporate into each piece.

3. What was the first piece of jewelry you ever made? How have your designs evolved?

My first piece of jewelry  was probably the glued macaroni necklace that most kids made in school, LOL! Ironically, I think that the macaroni necklace shaped the evolution of my jewelry today. – Macaroni scientifically has two forms; hard and soft. Similarly, my designs have a balance  between masculinity and femininity, shine and matte, subtlety and boldness, rare and familiar.

4. What did you focus on to start ROS Artistry?

My primary focus was in making sure that I could offer something special to others, without it being typical (diamonds). I wanted to focus on the understanding that we commonly love things that are one-of-a-kind, timeless, and fairly-priced.

5. How do you go about creating a new piece? We’d love to know about your design process – choosing materials, design development.

I usually start with the idea of  making items that are unique and transitional for various occasions. I then consider what elements could be incorporated that are not seen everyday on the street. From there, I just create and try not to focus on gender-specific concepts.

6. If you could see any woman or man wearing your beautiful designs, who would it be?

My ideal muse would be Amel Larrieux! I remember meeting her about 12 years ago wearing a bold necklace of woods and strands of beads that felt indigenous. It had the most beautiful luster and aroma. Since then, I’ve always admired her cultural style and appeal. She would be ideal.

7. What advice would you give anyone who want to follow their dreams while working full-time?

My only advice would be to understand that chasing dreams requires work, tenacity, and passion! If you’re working a full-time time job and concurrently following another dream; use your job to gain and refine the skills needed to make your business a success. Those skills can be in customer service, money management, marketing, research, etc.

I would also recommend keeping in mind that having patience is important. Sometimes we get so excited about our personal goals that we neglect the everyday lessons that aid our paths, that we realize later.

8. How does living in New Orleans influence your design style?

Everything about New Orleans inspires my design style! – NOLA’s unique appeal, climate, people, colors, aroma, and history all inspire what I envision ROS Artistry Jewelry to be. I want my jewelry to feel like the ‘gumbo’ we often refer to New Orleans as. I want ROS Artistry to be bold yet comforting; to smell good, and to evoke a sense of peace and spirituality that New Orleans provides. If I can, I want it all to feel like wearing LOVE everyday.

9. What advice would you give to your 21-year-old self?

Whoa! – Hmmm? – I would’ve told myself at 21 to reflect the beauty that others see in me today. I would’ve also told myself to be more confident and to use my resources wisely; to practice, and know that it’s doesn’t always ‘make perfect’. I would also say to respect the doors that closed in my face, and to reflect on the ‘no’s’ to be better, until the yes’s come back around. I’d also tell myself to enjoy the process of growing and getting better.

10. Who is Randi ‘Obi’ Sylve? And why should we buy ROS Artistry jewelry?

Randi ‘Obi’ Sylve is a multi-faceted individual that loves to polish new ideas. He loves a challenge, and taking advantage of opportunities to make people feel wonderful; in whatever that may mean to them. My jewelry is just a start to spearheading that goal. Purchasing ROS Artistry Jewelry means a lot to me in terms of my business, but I’d rather make people feel appreciated and worthy for free. I am just fortunate to do what I love in a way that it impacts others through my art. But yes, Buy away! — Did I say that I am silly, and tons of fun? Haha.

To check out the ROS Artistry collection and/or purchase at www.ROSartistry.com.