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The Lesbian Socialite’s Dinah Contest

The Lesbian Socialite Contest

Are you going to Dinah Shore weekend? You wish you could get in the special events for free ninety-nine? Well, The Lesbian Socialite is looking for you to join #TeamSocialite at The Dinah!

These are the two things you have to do. First, you have to want to attend the World Famous Dinah Shore Weekend. And then you have to join #TeamSocialite and tell everyone about it. If you’re interested, let me tell you how to enter.

Stalk The Lesbian Socialite on social media. The more engaged you are, the easier it will be to see you. Basically, you have to stand out from the crowd.

Check The Lesbian Socialite on Twitter (@TheLesSocialite), Facebook (The Lesbian Socialite page), Instagram (@TheLesbianSocialite) and tumblr (@thereallesbiansocialite) are all places you can interact with The Lesbian Socialite. Then you should:

  1. Tell them why you want to join #TeamSocialite. The Lesbian Socialite parties with a purpose over here. It’s not simply about looking good and being fabulous (even though we do that). It’s about doing something good and being supportive to our community. Tell them what their motto socially active through social activity means to you.
  2. Tell them your Dinah dream. Why do you want to go The Dinah?

It’s pretty simple, huh? Get creative. Post your story on their FB page use the hashtag #TSDinah2016 if you post it on any other social media. Stay engaged. Invite your friends to make your case. Post as often as you like. They are a social bunch so they love to be engaged in a conversation.

The rules: NO NUDITY! They are somewhat dignified (at least in the public eye). Stalk The Lesbian Socialite a little. Again, figure out how to stand out. They love anything about people doing good things for the community as well as champagne, schoolate, food in general, travel, fashion and parties with a purpose.

Two (2) winners will receive the following:

The Golden Ticket: You (plus one) will get weekend passes to attend the World Famous Dinah Shore Weekend.

In addition to the passes, you will received $50 credit with OUT is in USA. You will be feature on The Lesbian Socialite website with your story about your first Dinah Shore weekend as well social media shout-outs over the weekend. Basically, you’ll be a ‘celesbian’ for the weekend. And you will get a passes to The Lesbian Socialite exclusive event at their Dinah Club House.

PLEASE NOTE: This DOES NOT include travel and/or accommodations. That is still YOUR responsibility.





Why SIYA’s New Mixtape ‘What Never Happened’ is DOPE!


I’ve continuously listened to this mixtape for about 3 days straight. All I can say is that it is dope. From her life as a dealer to her creating her own lane in the music industry SIYA takes you a rollercoaster ride of  life, love, lost, and dopeness while being true to who she is.

SIYA joined the world renowned DJ Skee to deliver the dope mixtape, What Never Happened. You are a dope if you don’t listen to this mixtape, her follow-up to “Better Late Than Never”. Every mixtape SIYA releases is a glimpse in the life of Michele Sherman (her government name). This one is no different.

In “1997” she reminisces about growing up making references to the rappers who were popular in that year like Biggie, Jay Z and Big Pun as she raps about her experiences as a dope dealer. She doesn’t glorify her life as a dope dealer, but she introspectively verses about her former life as what she knew. In “Judge Me” SIYA flows about her haters, how they don’t know her to judge her and gives you a glimpse of her struggles as an independent artist in the public eye.

But it’s her lyrical prowess laced with straightforward honest that separates SIYA from other rappers. Like MC Lyte in her highlight SIYA cannot be compared to any female mainstream rapper. Not Nicki Minaj. Not Dej Loaf. Not Iggy Azalea. SIYA is creating her own lane in this music industry. In “Industry Interlude” SIYA talks about industry rule #4080 of ‘the record company people are shady!” A sample of DMX’s discontent with the music industry plays as she flows about the hypocrisy of the music industry and how she’s circumventing the conventional way of making money by ghostwriting for other rappers and doing shows for her fans.

Yes, SIYA’s openly lesbian, but as she raps about the ups and downs of her relationships, anyone can connect with the lyrics. For her experiences are universal. In “You Know That” SIYA raps about a complicated love where she messed up and want her back. But in “Know Better” she talks about giving her all to a girl who doesn’t deserve it. In “La’Golden” she speaks about loving that special woman. We’ve all been there no matter what our sexual orientation is.

The bottomline is SIYA continues to make her lane by putting out real dope music. Even though she can be introspective and sensitive, she still shows her street side in songs, “Come Get Your Bitch” and “Real Nigga Business”. Thus, giving this mixtape a balance between mainstream and hardcore rap which is rare in today’s hip-hop music.

SIYA is definitely on a mission to be heard and be recognized beyond Sisterhood of Hip-Hop reality season. The unconventional tutelage of R&B singer-songwriter, Tank, doped SIYA up to take on the music industry. Tank has helped SIYA to navigate the music industry while being authentic to herself.

Unlike the previous mixtape Better Late Than Never which featured big stars like Chris Brown and Problem, SIYA (and her talent) is at the center of attention. You should check out this mixtape below to hear SIYA’s progression as an artist and a human being.

My Letter to Brittney Griner

Dear Brittney Griner,

I write this to you not out of judgment but out of respect and admiration. I see you. No one can comprehend what it feels like to be you, Brittney Yvette Griner. You’re 6’8” with an unusually deep voice. Only four women has been taller than you in the WNBA. You’re the first woman to model for Nike’s menswear. And you’re only 24. You’re young with access to resources and money that most people only dream about. But the growing pains are the same. I do not know if you have friends to be totally honest with you. But as an older lesbian who has been where you are, I see the same mistakes I’ve made. I want to offer you some advice.  In My Skin

I understand that you’re still trying to figure out who you are and how you fit in this world especially on this big stage. Unlike yours my growing pains weren’t broadcasted. I’d cringe every time someone brings up how I foolishly I acted with this ex or in this situation. I am so glad we didn’t have social media when I was making those mistakes. I am so glad people couldn’t screenshot my immaturity and my recklessness. But Brittney, you have every right to live your life, but I don’t want to see you hit rock bottom to learn your lesson. I know that three game suspension was hard on you because the court is a place of solace. The court is where you can be yourself and be free. 

I see you. I see you’re longing for love. We all do. We’ve all done some stupid things in the name of love. You’re looking for that someone to make you whole from your past of hurt, disappointments and pain. You’ve been hurting since the Messy Girl incident and the many others in middle school. You still hurt when the naysayers say shit like ‘Brittney Griner is the first man to play in the WNBA.’ Those insults may motivate you, but you’re human, and I know that shit hurts. Acknowledge the hurt and get it out. Don’t let it fester to manifest into anger or rage. You have to control your emotions no matter how much anyone push your buttons.

I see you. I see the pain in your eyes when you talk about your father. I understand it. I feel your pain. I used to be daddy’s girl, too, until he found out I was a lesbian. At 19 he asked if I had a girlfriend. I answered, ‘Yes’ because I was tired of not being my authentic self around him. His reaction was a gun to my head. I calmly told him to pull the trigger, but that wouldn’t make a difference in the fact that I was gay. Needless to say, I still tried to be daddy’s girl, but I realized that I controlled who was in my life. I decided to only allow people in my life that loved me as is not who they wanted me to be. I definitely understand the torment of thinking ‘why my father doesn’t love me’ or ‘why I can’t be daddy’s girl like I used to be’. I’ve learned I should surround myself with people who me hungry for life, touch my heart and nourish my soul. And you should, too. It’s your choice.

I see you. I see that your journey has been lonely. You’re tired of being alone. You think love will cure this loneliness. The nameless college love. Relle. Glory. Lola (or maybe not). And all of the ones in between. According to your autobiography, In My Skin, you’ve been in and out of relationships since your freshman year at Baylor. You’re a serial monogamous. And you’ve continuously broadcasted your relationships on social media thus inviting the criticisms and insults. But you need to learn how to be with yourself. Take yourself out to dinner. Take yourself to the movies, for you deserve the royal treatment you give to others. And who knows you better than yourself? NO ONE!

I see you. I see that you should look within to find the love you’re searching for. Self-love is paramount as you seek love in other. It sets the tone in who and what you allow in your life. If you cannot love yourself, you will be unable to love others. And remember money, notoriety and fame cannot buy love, for love’s free. It’s unconditional by definition. All you have to be is yourself. Love is as defined in bell hooks’ All About Love is the ‘the will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own and another’s growth.’

With that definition, who loves you, Brittney? For care is a dimension of love so you can be cared for and not loved. For love is combination of care, commitment, trust, knowledge, responsibility and respect. Again, your dad and Kim Mulkey have not respected you as is. Your dad wants you to be forever ‘daddy’s girl’ who listens and obeys. You are NOT that person anymore. Kim Mulkey wanted you to be a great player for the team. If Mulkey respected you, she would have told you about Baylor’s policy against homosexuality when you verbally committed to Baylor. Both have manipulated you to get what you want. Neither one wanted to deal with who you are, an out black lesbian who is living her life on her own terms.

I see you’re hurting, but it’s time to work on self. You’ve been in and out relationships for six years. You need to focus your time and energy on you. The way you get wrapper up in others when you’re in a relationship, that’s the way you should get wrapped up in yourself to find your happiness, your light. You have to be selfish, introspective and maybe a little reclusive. You will discover that love lies within you all along. You will find love, first self-love and then that romantic love we all covet.

brittney new booI see you. Like I did when I played you use the basketball court as a place of refuge. The one thing since 9th grade that has been steady in your life is basketball. Not only basketball gave you purpose, fame and money, but it gave you safe space to be yourself. It’s that freedom that allowed you to grow into greatness. But Brittney, I see your greatness not as a basketball player as impressive as that is. I see your greatness in your humanity, your compassion, and your authenticity. By being an example, you’ve reached many kids who are going through their own version of hell to show them that it gets better. But it’s about reaching YOUR full potential, YOUR best self.

I see you. You are brand. You are a face of the WNBA and the China league. At 24 I know it can be overwhelming, but this is what you signed up for. There’s not many to get this opportunity. Your hard work, athleticism and authenticity got you this far. And it can take you farther. Don’t let your immaturity and rash decisions take it away. Envision your best self and work towards being her. I am rooting for you, Brittney!

I see you. I see your greatness and wonder. It’s time for you to see it and act accordingly.

With respect and admiration,

A. Kenyatta Parks

A 38-year-old black lesbian who has made some of the same mistakes

Introducing Reese Harper of Harper Associates

TGR: Name & Nickname

RH: Sheresse Reneé Harper but I go by Reese

TGR: Relationship Status

RH: Single but dating someone.

TGR: What is the definition of a gentlewoman to you?

RH: A gentlewomen is a DISTINCTIVE woman who stands out in a group full of women. A woman who is very particular and meticulous about herself and those around her. A gentlewomen treats her wife/girlfriend and/or human beings with a bedside manner that is unmistakable and leaves a lasting breathtaking impression of people.

TGR: Do you consider yourself a gentlewoman? Why or why not?

RH: I consider myself a gentlewoman without sounding vain, my presence alone leaves a refreshing mark on everyone I encounter. I consider myself to be very respectful, strong, gentle, thoughtful, very distinctive and I have a bedside manner that makes everyone very comforted and safe when I am around.

TGR: How would you describe your personal style?

RH: My personal style is very meek and humble yet humorous and breathtaking.

TGR: Have you always been into fashion and style?

RH: I have always been into fashion and style. It is one of my characteristics that make me distinctive.

TGR: Why does your presence/voice matter?

RH: My presence and voice matters because I have always had a very strong influence and voice within the city of New Orleans. I am very liberal and possess one of the most important traits a person can have and that’s integrity. I’m well known in both the professional and social when in the city.

TGR: Favorite quote

RH: My favorite quote is a biblical scripture. I can do all things through Christ that strengthens me. Philippians 4:13

TGR: Favorite book of all-time

RH: Sun Tzu’s The Art of War.

TGR: Name 5 of your favorite musical artists.

RH: Sam Cooke, Vivian Green, Sebastian Michael, Usher and Smokie Norful

If you want to find out more about Reese, you can check her out at:



Introducing M.R. Mason

Q & A with M.R. Mason

TGR: Name

MM: M. R. Mason

TGR: What is your relationship status? (If single, are you looking?)

MM: I am in a relationship with a beautiful woman (inside and out).

TGR: What is the definition of a gentlewoman to you?

MM: I believe that being a gentlewoman is a lifestyle.  I think respect and chivalry are at the core of that title.  She is someone who is always mindful of others, especially women, and selfless in her actions.  A gentlewoman is genuinely considerate, a generous provider, a fearless protector, and an unconditional lover.

TGR: Do you consider yourself a gentlewoman? Why or why not?

MM: I absolutely consider myself a gentlewoman.  I pride myself on being chivalrous and respectful to all women.  When in a relationship, I am constantly thinking of ways to make my lady feel like the queen that she is.  As a dominant woman, I welcome the role of being a protector and provider.  I’ll do whatever it takes to make her feel safe and secure, as well as be the financial breadwinner in the relationship.  And although I maintain a role of dominance, I have also not lost all aspects of my femininity, especially sensitivity and compassion. It’s a very fine line that many can’t master that’s why I believe not all ags/bois/studs are able to wear the title of a gentlewoman.

TGR: Have you always been into fashion and style?

MM: Yes, I have always been into fashion and style. I remember EVERY Friday when I as a child my mother would take my sister and I to JC Penny’s and Hudson’s to shop for trendy, fashionable clothes. During my early years, my mother instilled in us the importance of being well dressed, neat, and clean. This life lesson has surely stuck with me throughout my 32 years.

TGR: How would you describe your personal style?

MM: I’d describe my personal style as classy, simple, versatile, tasteful, and distinguished.   My style from day to day mainly depends on my mood and/or the occasion.   One day you’ll see me dressed in my “urban gear” which could vary from timbs and denims to j’s and drop crotch cargos.  The next day you may see me in my “prep wear” such as a polo shirt with khakis to a casual button down shirt and loafers.  Or the following day you may see me wearing “sophisticated attire” which may consist of an ascot, full suit, and wingtip shoes.  For me, every day is a new fashion adventure!

TGR:As a Christian, African-American lesbian I believe I am obligated to be an example to the LGBTQ community.  Unfortunately, our society has taught us to be ashamed of our sexuality and lifestyle, especially as it relates to spirituality. Sadly, this type of brainwashing has caused a lot of our LGBTQ brothers and sisters to run from the Source of ALL existence – JESUS! I’ve always tried to live my life in a way that when people look at me they see the goodness of GOD first, and then they see my pride in being African American and lesbian.  I pray that my light shines in everything I say and do and encourages someone to come/come back to JESUS!

TGR: Favorite quote

MM: My favorite quote is “To whom much is given…much is expected!” This quote always reminds me of the responsibility that my voice, my actions, and life carry. It inspires me to always be my best because my life is not about me, but it is about serving GOD by Blessing HIS people whom have placed great faith and trust upon me.

TGR: Favorite book of all-time

MM: My favorite book of all-time is The Bible.  The Bible has always been a lamp to my feet as I walk on this journey called life.   Despite my opinion that some things in The Bible don’t necessarily apply today, I do believe it is the greatest book ever written!

TGR: Name 5 of your top musical artists

MM: Keyshia Cole, Jessica Reedy, TLC, Luther Vandross, and Notorious B.I.G.

Introducing Michelle Daly

Q & A with Michelle Daly

TGR: What is the definition of a gentlewoman to you?

MD: A gentlewoman is the modern definition of style and class with in the lesbian world.  She straddles the lines of gender leaning more towards masculine.  She takes care of her lady.  Chivalrous, gallant, and extraordinarily attentive are just a few of her characteristics.  The new gentlewoman defines the “New Rules”: Informed from the past but pushing forward to the future.

TGR: Do you consider yourself a gentlewoman? Why or why not?

MD: I do consider myself a gentlewoman.  I am the BOI within my relationship and enjoy playing the more dominant role.  I enjoy doing all of the little chivalrous things for my woman, from opening car doors, to walking her to her door, and taking her on proper dates.  Born and raised on the east coast, I have the old school rules of engagement ingrained in me.  I see the world through that lens.

TGR: Do you think you have to walk differently in the world as a masculine-identified woman?

MD: I personally don’t walk any differently than I would on a regular basis.  I am confident in the way that I look, whether I’m dressed more masculine one day.  I try to just be who I want to be on a daily basis.

TGR: Have you always been into fashion and style?

MD: Yes!  Fashion and style are extremely important to me.  I feel that first impressions are everything.  I also feel that you will only attract what you put forth into the universe.  Dressing up is good manners, as Tom Ford says.

TGR: How would you describe your personal style?

MD: I would describe my personal style as an east coast dapper/preppy with a touch of edge.  I like to dress very tailored.

TGR: Why does your presence/voice matter?

MD: As a community organizer of the lesbian nightlife in Austin, Texas, I try to set a positive example for all of the other gay women in the community.  Organizing events has created some cohesion within the lesbian community here in Austin.  It’s important to be able to rely on other women in the community for advice and support, specifically now with the marriage equality movement across the United States.